Once the stories start flowing and your paper ghosts are wriggling with life, you may find yourself with a lot of volunteers. Now is the time to be extra creative. Use all the help that is offered ! Rather than seeing enthusiastic volunteers as “Johnny-Come-Lately-Bandwagon-Jumpers,” consider how their eagerness to help could add to the richness of the ultimate end product. Collaborating this way will make your work an “of the people, by the people” sort of outcome for your family tree.
Think about a special talent aunt Susan can contribute. She might well be the biggest gossip in 3 counties…so use that! You can always debunk / confirm later. But for now, pull up a chair, turn her on and let her rip! Don’t stop with the volunteers who step forward ! Everyone knows there is an unwritten code of honor among thieves, however that code pales to the closed -community of cooks who hold the family recipes! When buttered up and coddled. cooks may be moved to show heart and dig out family recipes to share. They could also be put on the task of beating secret recipes out of others within the inner circle of the kitchen. Artsy types could be put to work designing a cover for the finished product, or Illuminating pages. The scholarly would enjoy collaborating with each branch to create a representative family crest (see a later posting for info on this). The hoarders (God bless us everyone!) can be assigned to photo finding, or heirloom display.
Get them all working together as a team . Once your dear hoarder has unearthed Grandmama’s wedding china, perhaps there’s a shutter bug just waiting to document those very heirlooms from every angle. Clearly, there’s no reason to pass over your clan”s computer geek! They could join forces with the children in a google scavenger hunt of mapping and street viewing ancestral homes. And, if the Saints are smiling upon you, may you find yourself in the fortunate position of being related to one or more retired couples who just love to travel. If you can engage their enthusiasm and wunderlust they may become the boots on the ground you’ve always wished for to find and photo far away monuments or records.
The more the merrier… really ! However you scheme (or choose to use) the willing participants, don’t hesitate when they offer. Really pull out all stops to let their experience count ! If several family members become truly vested in this work (with a very specific task assigned) the hype will be bigger and the end result will have broader appeal.
You and I both know that there has to be an invisible lid on this “doling out of jobs” in order for it to work. Play your hand a bit close. Be sure to explain that in order for you to be an effective writer and compiler of your collective story, you will need certain things from all of them. Timelines, confidentiality, steadfastness of the untiring persuer…and all suggestions in written form and sent to your email or mailbox. You’ve got to be able to focus on the big task and trust that as the adults they are…they will keep noses to the grindstone and complete their mission! Independent of you. Ask your mother. .. don’t bug me to death… tend to your own knittin’… implied but unsaid 🙂
It’s always a fine line when families are called to work together. Delegating fairly and effectively without being seen as bossy is a dance on the tightrope. But if you can stand to let them help, you will be rewarded in the end. After all, families are like…well you know…everybody has one !